We are now hosting a Men’s Group Online.
It’s being held the first Wednesday of each month at 7PM
You can view and/or download our Meeting Format and Ground Rules at the links below.
NRUUF Men’s Group Meeting Format – https://www.newriveruu.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/Mens-Group-Format.pdf
NRUUF Men’s Group Ground Rules – https://www.newriveruu.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/NRUUF-Mens-Group-Ground-Rules.pdf
This meeting is open to ALL Male Identifying humans who agree to abide by the Ground Rules listed above.
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NRUUF MEN’S GROUP GROUND RULES
(courtesy of Kenny D’Cruz, Menspeak)
Traditionally ‘what is said in this room stays in this room’, though we usually agree that we may discuss
our own process and even refer to something that may be helpful to someone out of the group as
‘something I saw on TV’, or ‘my friend said’, etc. The important thing is that no one can be identified!
Respect in this group means to listen to others when they speak, and be aware of how you are behaving.
Treat others in a way you would expect to be treated by them. Respect of other people naturally follows
on from self-respect, as lack of self-respect will reflect in lack of respect for others. Respect our own truth,
boundaries, feelings, instincts and intuition.
(iii) TAKE PART
It would be better to authentically and honestly say “Pass” than to lie, perform, get into automatic-pilot
banter, go into our heads and out of touch with ourselves. Telling the truth and sharing our selves gives
everyone else in the room safety and permission to do the same.
(iv) BE HONEST
Be honest to ourselves – about our feelings as well as our words – because that way we can own our
feelings and work things through, rather than quietly internalize and carry it until we find an opportunity
to dump it on someone else, within / outside the group.
(v) OWN IT
Use “I” statements, rather than “you”, “one” or “we”. What is being said by you may not be true for all
present. Depersonalizing is often a way of avoiding ownership of a feeling, an experience, opinion, or
(vi) DON’T BULLY
Neither aggressive, nor passive-aggressive bullying is an option here. No one’s safety is to be
compromised. This is a space where people can learn how to challenge, or disagree with another person,
clearly, honestly, honorably and with respect.
(vii) DON’T VAMP OR STEAL
When someone is telling their story, give them the space to express it from their experience, without
projecting how good, bad or ugly it is; without jumping into / steering / boosting their drama; without
upstaging them with a more dramatic story, so they can listen to their own words and choose how to
work it through.
(viii) EXPERIMENT WITH WHO YOU ARE
You may be known as a joker, peacemaker, shy, confident, introvert, extrovert, whatever personalities
your circles are used to. This space encourages us to experiment with allowing some of the quiet parts
inside to come out and see how authentic they feel; with the option of asking for feedback.
(ix) STAY UNTIL THE END
If something said by another, or something comes up that may feel uncomfortable, bring up anger,
sadness, etc. it would probably be better to work this through with the group – or at least name it, instead of quietly holding on to it – rather than taking it away with you and allowing its power to overshadow you for however long it may take hold.
(x) LIVE BEYOND THE RULES
Playing small to ‘be good’ in the group would be less valuable than playing big and growing within the
group. That’s not to say ‘break the rules’ but it is to say play big enough that you may be challenged and
we may all grow in awareness and life choices from our time together.
Disclaimer: All activities are undertaken entirely at the participant risk and no responsibility can be taken
for any physical, mental or emotional injury suffered by any participant. By taking part each participant
accepts full responsibility for his safety and well-being. If in doubt, please seek professional advice before